you know what trope pisses me off the most? when the protag is pointing a gun at somebody and they’re like “you won’t do it. you’re too good” and the person holding the gun is like oh shit i am and they slowly lower the gun while the other person laughs. WHAT THE FUCK. if i were there, and somebody told me “you won’t do it” i would immediately shoot them dead without hesitating. who are you to tell me what i wont do. musty bitch
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Lesson two, which I meant to make lesson one: If it’s not about you, don’t make it about you. If it is about you, do better.
What does that mean? Well. At some point you’re going to hear a statement like “white women are racist.” Your first instinct is going to be “not me! I’m a good person!” Stop for a minute before you jump in with that comment.
First of all, is it contributing anything to the discussion? No. It’s actually derailing the discussion by recentering it on people having to reassure you that you’re a good person. Remember #notallmen? Don’t be that guy. More about derailing in a second, I promise.
Second of all, I chose that statement for a reason, and it’s about to get real uncomfortable in here so let me reassure you FIRST that I love you and I think you’re a worthwhile person: white people are racist. They benefit from systemic racism whether or not they actively contribute to perpetuating it, and they perpetuate it in ways that are invisible to them because they’ve never had to think about it. That’s a thing you can learn about by not jumping in on that discussion and just sitting and listening for a minute.
i’ve been thinking about our empty cup family (as one does), and i just:
everytime they sit down together for a meal magnus inevitably says ‘ah yes time for a family dinner’
whenever samirah gathers them together to talk about important things, magnus shows up and is like ‘i hope i’m not late for the family meeting’
and like, he was probably joking at first, but then everyone starts doing it.
blitz says ‘please put on this jacket i refuse to have any child of mine wearing a shirt like that’. hearth signs ‘can you fetch the kids’. samirah says ‘hey don’t talk shit about my brother i’ll kick your teeth in’. magnus says ‘sorry i can’t hang out i’m having breakfast with my family’.
what i do is not up to you 