this is the purest video you will see all day, it includes not only practical advice on how to make cats feel comfortable but also:
the most patient and long suffering clawdia
bob ross, but a vet
squish the cat
squish the cat, but with a towel
absolute unit mr. pirate
a little chubby but quite beautiful
please watch this immediately
Squish! That! Cat!
I considered myself to be well versed on cats/communicating with cats. I’ve lived with at least two cats my whole life, and currently live with two very different cats who I love. Apparently most cats are shoulder cats? My cat Mason has always been very nervous about going up on people’s shoulders, so I thought I’d try the “shoulder cat” technique.
I had to help him up on my shoulders because he’s never done it himself before. But once I got him up there I squished him, he started purring like nobody’s business. I carried him around our entire apartment, up and down staircases, and he was so happy. He didn’t try to leave once! When I put him down he head butted me and meowed and was super affectionate. And of course I gave him a treat.
TLDR- Even if you live with cats and think you understand cats, please watch this video.
This is honest to god one of the best videos I’ve ever seen
Tumblr likes to spin its wheels and spend time yelling at each other, so here’s a nice comprehensive guide. Five Things You Can Do Now That You Know We Were Serious About The Antisemitism:
1) Accept that if you’re in this to be an ally, you’re going to have a tough road ahead of you. We’re traditionally very wary of outsiders in our spaces because when we welcome them, well … this happens. In fact, if you want to convert to Judaism, you traditionally get rejected three times, just to make sure you’re serious and not shitting with us. Expect wariness. Expect to get your feelings hurt, because a lot of us are very raw right now. Stick with us anyway–once we know you’re not just bandwagoning us, you’re going to end up with a lot of friends who are relying on you. Nobody said allyship was easy.
2) Learn about Judaism. Note that I DO NOT MEAN LEARNING WITH INTENTION TO CONVERT. We don’t proselytize and it would be against Torah for me to even suggest it. What I mean here is, you can’t call bullshit if you don’t know what we’re about. Some good basic resources are The Jewish Book of Why by Alfred Kolatch; My Jewish Learning; and for a strict Orthodox standpoint, Chabad. You’ll find that some things in these sources contradict each other. That’s pretty par for the course in Judaism; we don’t have a single dogma or point of view.
3) Consider calling a local synagogue and asking if they have volunteer work for a gentile ally. Introduce yourself, explain (briefly) what got your attention, and offer your services–to stand outside during services, to walk folks to and from shul (this is particularly important in Orthodox communities, where driving on Shabbat is forbidden), hell, to help stuff envelopes for whatever vigil or service they may be holding in memoriam. Anything will help.
4) You may wish to make a donation to a local synagogue or Jewish charity. I strongly recommend the ADL (Anti-Defamation League), which is a Jewish charity focused on combating antisemitism. Jews traditionally give monetary gifts in sums of $18, which corresponds to the numeric value of the word “chai,” or “life.” The last time this happened I made a post about this tradition and got accused of being a Nazi because of the whole 1-8 A-H thing, so let’s just nip that right in the bud: yes, we know. It’s a horrible coincidence. We’re not giving up a few-thousand-year-old tradition because of some dipshit with a bad moustache. If you can’t afford $18, consider moving the decimal over and donating in multiples of 18, like $3.60. Your meaning will still be perfectly clear, and anything helps. If you wish to make a donation in memory/in honor (which many synagogues appreciate), I suggest either choosing the name of one of the shooting victims–giving tzedakah, or charity, in their names is considered a great mitzvah and a blessing to their families–or using the phrase “am Yisrael chai.” It means “Israel lives.” Although the country in the MENA region is called Israel, this is not what the phrase refers to–the traditional patriarch of Judaism was named Jacob, and renamed as Israel following a wrestling match with a messenger of G-d. To say “am Yisrael chai” is to say his people, that is, the Jewish people, live.
And on that note …
5) In the coming days and weeks, you’re going to see a lot of people making this about Israel or Zionism. Please tell them to shut the fuck up. Israel, Zionism, and Jews are three completely different, albeit related, things. To wit: Israel is a geopolitical country situated on the site of our ancestral homeland and currently headed by Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu; Zionism is the belief that Jews deserve a safe homeland; and Jews are a group of people spread across six continents and most countries who are united by a common group of ancestors from the Levant (the part of the world now occupied by the geopolitical entity known as Israel). Saying the victims of this shooting had anything to do with the political situation in Israel would be like saying I, personally, am responsible for Vladimir Putin because I have a Russian ancestor. I speak exactly two words of Russian, have never been to Russia, have no family left living there (and haven’t for four generations), but I’m totally responsible for Russia. You see how ridiculous that sounds? The same applies to Jews and Israel. Please, please, PLEASE do not conflate this event with Israeli politics. I’m not saying Israeli politics aren’t a topic worth discussing–I’m saying this is not a discussion they belong in. Don’t let the powers that be (or the alt-right sleaze that sucks the dicks of the powers that be) distract from the topic at hand, which is “out of control guns meet out of control xenophobia and antisemitism,” by throwing OMG ISRAEL AND ZIONISM AND GLOBALISM into the mix.
And finally: yes, gentiles, this is okay for you to reblog. In fact I encourage it. And I will answer any questions you have to the best of my ability, if they’re asked in good faith. Please just follow the most basic tenet of Judaism, which is: don’t be a dick.
If you’re ready to stand and help, now is the time.
Star-struck Interviewer: “You must miss the good old days.”
Steve Rogers: “I grew up in a tenement slum. Rats, lice, bedbugs, one shared bathroom per floor with a bucket of water to flush, cast iron coal-burning stove for cooking and heat. Oh, and coal deliveries – and milk deliveries, if you could get it – were by horse-drawn cart. One summer I saw a workhorse collapse in the heat, and the driver started beating it with a stick to make it get up. We threw bricks at the guy until he ran away. Me and Bucky and our friends used to steal potatoes or apples from the shops. We’d stick them in tin cans with some hot ashes, tie the cans to some twine, and then swing ‘em around as long as we could to get the ashes really hot. Then we’d eat the potato. And there were the block fights. You don’t know what a block fight was? That’s when the Irish or German kids who lived on one block and the Jewish or Russian kids who lived on the next block would all get together into one big mob of ethnic violence and beat the crap out of each other. One time I tore a post out of a fence and used it on a Dutch kid who’d called Bucky a Mick. Smacked him in the head with the nails.”
Tony Stark: Peter you are sixteen year old andyou can bench press a schoolbus but crime fighting is still dangerous so I am going to provide you with a high tech bullet proof armor equipped with an AI and several hundred options that will help you fight criminals. Also until you are older I’ll limit you to fighting the local petty crimes and try to keep you away from the truly dangerous criminals
Bruce Wayne: Robin you are an eight year old who can do backflips. Let’s put you in spandex and throw you at a serial killer lmao
I introduced a friend to ATLA a few nights ago, and they had only
known two things about the entire show: the cabbage meme, and that Aang
apparently wants to ride every large and dangerous animal he can
possibly find. We got through the first five or so episodes, and my
friend noted that Aang is exactly what a 12-year-old would be like if
given godlike powers, and that this is literally just what he
could do with airbending. He can’t even wield any of the other elements,
and he’s one of the most powerful people on the planet, because he’s an
airbender.
And that got me thinking.
This snippet from Bitter Work is one of the few pieces of concrete information we get about the airbenders, at least in ATLA. Iroh is explaining to Zuko how all four of the elements connect to the world and to each other.
Fire is the element of power, of desire and will, of ambition and the ability to see it through. Power is crucial to the world; without it, there’s no drive, no momentum, no push. But fire can easily grow out of control and become dangerous; it can become unpredictable, unless it is nurtured and watched and structured.
Earth is the element of substance, persistence, and enduring. Earth is strong, consistent, and blunt. It can construct things with a sense of permanence; a house, a town, a walled city. But earth is also stubborn; it’s liable to get stuck, dig in, and stay put even when it’s best to move on.
Water is the element of change, of adaptation, of movement. Water is incredibly powerful both as a liquid and a solid; it will flow and redirect. But it also will change, even when you don’t want it to; ice will melt, liquid will evaporate. A life dedicated to change necessarily involves constant movement, never putting down roots, never letting yourself become too comfortable.
We see only a few flashbacks to Aang’s life in the temples, and we get a sense of who he was and what kind of upbringing he had.
This is a preteen with the power to fucking fly. He’s got no fear of falling, and a much reduced fear of death. There’s a reason why the sages avoid telling the new avatar their status until they turn sixteen; could you imagine a firebender, at twelve years old, learning that they were going to be the most powerful person in the whole world? Depending on that child, that could go so badly.
But the thing about Aang, and the thing about the Air Nomads, is that they were part of the world too. They contributed to the balance, and then they were all but wiped out by Sozin. What was lost, there? Was it freedom? Yes, but I think there’s something else too, and it’s just yet another piece of the utter brilliance of the worldbuilding of ATLA.
To recap: we have power to push us forward; we have stability to keep us strong; we have change to keep us moving.
And then we have this guy.
The air nomads brought fun to the world. They brought a very literal sense of lightheartedness.
Sozin saw this as a weakness. I think a lot of the world did, in ATLA. Why do the Air Nomads bother, right? They’re just up there in their temples, playing games, baking pies in order to throw them as a gag. As Iroh said above, they had pretty great senses of humour, and they didn’t take themselves too seriously.
But that’s a huge part of having a world of balance and peace.
It’s not just about power, or might, or the ability to adapt. You can have all of those, but you also need fun. You need the ability to be vulnerable, to have no ambitions beyond just having a good day. You need to be able to embrace silliness, to nurture play, to have that space where a very specific kind of emotional growth can occur. Fun makes a hard life a little easier. Fun makes your own mortality a little less frightening to grasp. Fun is the spaces in between, that can’t be measured by money or military might. Fun is what nurtures imagination, allows you to see a situation in a whole new light, to find new solutions to problems previously considered impossible.
Fun is what makes a stranger into a friend, rather than an enemy.
I literally had a friend say this the other day while having dinner with him and his husband.
“Listen.” He said. “I served in the military. 10 years in the army, and had to keep my mouth shut and pretend. I had to pretend to everyone, until I just got sick of it and decided fuck you all. I haven’t been nice in years. Everyone saying I should shut up can kiss my ass.”
If people wanted nice gay people they should have been nicer to them.
IF PEOPLE WANTED NICE GAY PEOPLE THEY SHOULD HAVE BEEN NICER TO THEM
Oh wow I forgot about this. I need to tell Ron he’s Tumblr famous now.
Ron says to tell all the pissed off cockroach motherfuckers that he and his husband Ryl are now your Angry Gay Dads.
Excellent.
All right, everyone, it’s soapbox time, and you know I’m serious because I’m using capital letters and punctuation.
Even if you don’t usually like the CW’s superhero shows, even if you normally don’t like superhero shows at all, please go watch the most recent episode of Supergirl, called Man of Steel, which aired October 28, 2018. It’s free on the CW’s website and will stay so for about a month, albeit with ads.
I affectionately call Supergirl “the preachy one” of the CW shows, because it can be a little ham-handed with the aliens-as-oppressed-group metaphor and a lot of rah-rah-rah leftist language. I’m fine with it- they’re generally promoting good ideas- but it’s a bit much, even for me, someone who agrees with them. This season has leaned in even harder on “space aliens are like illegal immigrants” front, with anti-alien violence (and I mean alien as in space alien, not alien as in Douchebag for someone who came here illegally) as our Big Bad’s motivation. It is not subtle at all in the mirroring of nativist rhetoric used against illegal immigrants, especially ones from Central or South America. I came in to “Man of Steel” expecting more of this.
The previous episode had a cliffhanger where someone irradiated the entire atmosphere with Kryptonite, almost killing Supergirl (but she won’t die, because she’s the title character and it’s still a CW show). As the usual protagonists work to save her, Supergirl’s adoptive sister asks, “Who would do something like this?”
Smash cut to the protagonist of this episode, the guy who did something like this. The show spends a solid 35 minutes following this guy through four years of his life. At the beginning, he’s a college professor, mildly accepting of Earth’s alien population, whose father made his living running a steel mill. Every minute spent with this guy serves to illustrate exactly how he became so radicalized as to try to kill Supergirl. Alien metal was the wave of the future, not steel, destroying his father’s livelihood. Alien attacks killed his father and leveled his home. He got fired from his job for complaining about aliens to his class as he taught American history to them.
At every turn, he’s blamed for what’s happening to him. He tries to save an alien from anti-alien violence, but the first responders assume he was a perpetrator, because his father was one of the perpetrators. He goes to Luthorcorp, which originally contracted from his father’s steel mill, to try and save the contract, but Lena Luthor basically says, “Your father should just invest in alien metal instead of steel,” ignoring the expense it takes to convert a mill from manufacturing steel to manufacturing alien metal. He gets pissed, gets radicalized, and slowly slips into perpetrating anti-alien violence and inciting a nativist anti-alien movement.
It’s chilling, honestly, because it’s all played so straight. This could be a white guy, in the real world, becoming radicalized against nonwhite immigrants. I’m downright impressed the CW approved this, because it does not paint the nice liberal heroes of our show in a good light. They’re the bad guys in this episode, at least for those 35 minutes. Every single one of them interacts with him at some point before he’s crossed the line into Outright Racism, and none of them react in any way that’s helpful or productive. When he raises understandable concerns about aliens, they don’t take him seriously, because he sounds super racist. Of course, by the end of the episode, he’s gone off the deep end and is killing people and whatnot (don’t worry, the show doesn’t condone murder) but the show is unabashed about saying, “Look at all these ways our superheroes could have prevented this dude from going to this place, but they didn’t, because they didn’t want to listen to someone who sounds racist. They believed they were the good guys, so they didn’t listen to this person who sounds like a bad guy, and in doing so, enabled his descent into being an actual bad guy.”
CW knows that its audience, for Supergirl at least, is a bunch of liberals (myself included, I want to be very clear). It knows that we don’t like Donald Trump and his kind of rhetoric, and it scores easy points week after week saying, “Wow, that kind of rhetoric is Bad, and no one should do this!” It would be easy for CW to have just done that again this week, giving more rah-rah-rah go-liberals kinds of messages and themes. It’s what I expected. Instead, it spent time- a hell of a lot of time- going into who says this sort of thing, why they say it, how they got there in their lives. Compassion for “the enemy”, the people saying things we find morally repugnant. It’s chilling, it’s amazing, and it reminds its liberal audience that conservatives have reasons for their beliefs. It doesn’t make their beliefs (or actions) justified, but people are rational, and if we don’t treat them like they’re rational, it’s just going to make them angry.
The network had no idea this episode would air after a week of horrific mass violence. The bombs mailed to those critical of the current administration, the attempted shooting at a black church, and the abhorrent mass shooting at a synagogue celebrating the birth of a child. It’s easy, reading about these things in the news, to say, “Who could do such a thing?” I know I asked myself that question half a dozen times in the last few days alone. I’m impressed the CW looked at that question in context of their world, and instead of reducing “those people” into one-dimensional racist stereotypes, provided a nuanced, thoughtful answer.